Monday, 21 November 2016

Gents: How to establish Trust in Dating

Gents: How to establish Trust in Dating 
At Dating Agencyand Singles Club RSVP, we know that trusting another person is hard for many people, and made harder these days by dating apps that make you feel someone better is just a casual swipe away. Specifically, though, women who have troubling trusting their partners are usually on the lookout for certain things. Everyone has their own set of needs, but what does the skeptical woman want and need from her relationship? If you’re a woman who doesn’t trust easily, you may not even know the answer to this question. Let’s see if RSVP’s team of dating experts can help you out with that.

Let's start with what trust actually means. Trust is both a logical and emotional act. Emotionally, it's where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of you. The Logical act of trust is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss and concluded that the person in question will have a predictable manner. Trust is a two way communication which pulls together the logical act and emotional.

There are a few things that will trigger the trust issue for women, for example bringing up sex too early on in the relationship. This makes a women feel as though you are just trying to use her or are being disingenuous and will straight away lock you out. Some men think the harder they try - calling or texting a lot - the more serious she will think he is. People often have their phones on them and worry why they are not messaging back. This can be for many reasons - such as a busy life style. If a man tries too hard this can sometimes be the easiest way to lose someone as women may decide you are a ‘clinger’.

Another example at the opposite extreme is that you are not giving the relationship the attention it deserves. It will crumble and the trust will disappear. The woman you are with is not just an option to pass the time. If you are with her make her feel special and if you are not with her, at least contact her saying you are thinking about her. A relationship is about teamwork and if one person does not do their part it falls.

A woman truly wants a man who…

1.       Trusts her.

2.       Loves her.

3.       Protects her.

4.       Is Passionate.

5.       Has Ambition.

RSVP’steam of matchmaking experts are here to help you find the right partner for you.


Wednesday, 16 November 2016

Beating the odds

Have you ever thought you are the only single person on the planet? Then just when you finally think you may have found ‘the one’, they get snapped up from under you? Let’s be honest, when that happens, you automatically assume that there’s something wrong with you as a person. You go on a soul-search and find faults that aren’t actually there, plus a whole lot that are beyond your control. It’s pretty easy to find evidence for anything that you have programmed yourself to believe.


However…a recent article on Beating the Odds of FindingMr Right by JonBirger For The Daily Mail shows how mature single women in the UK outnumber men by almost a million. And this effect is exaggerated when women specify certain criteria in their perfect male partner, like a degree, for example. Plus, the situation worsens as you get older.


I found this article really intriguing, as a professional matchmaker for Dating Agency and Singles Club RSVP. It can be a common misconception that Dating Agencies struggle to attract men, so it’s something of a breath of fresh air to have these statistics out in the open. If I were the one searching, I would definitely want a team of professional matchmaking experts on my side searching for that special person on my behalf, as well as providing guidance to help me get the best out of every match. It’d certainly save wasting my time looking for a needle in a hay stack!


Although the Beating the Odds of Finding Mr Right article gives some good ways to find love, I wonder how many of us actually want to change our routines to find love? Love is acceptance, after all. I just know that mature single women need all the professional help they can get in finding a partner. And the matchmaking experts at RSVP are ready and willing to provide that help.

Are you guilty of procrastination with your dating journey?

It’s been longer than I would have liked, since I last wrote a blog. I asked myself why? The simple answer is, there is no real reason. Yes I can give you a long list of excuses, but no real valid reason. After all, we make time for what is important. I could say that life has taken over, like it sometimes does, yet I am a firm believer in freeing your time for people, rather than only talking to people in my free time.

Now I enjoy discussing the trials and tribulations of all dating aspects. I have a real passion for my role as Dating PA for RSVP’s Platinum Introduction Agency service. I can open up a whole new chapter in your life, giving you the key of the door to opportunities that you never would have had the chance to explore. I do not have a magic wand; you cannot buy love; yet I can assist on your journey a traditionaldating agency such as RSVP can offer you. Support, hints and tips: they will tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear.

Are you guilty of procrastination with your dating journey? When your car goes wrong and you’ve spent an hour under the bonnet wondering what all those things do, you go to a garage. When your plumbing goes wrong – you call a plumber. When Google can’t tell you what your health problem is, you go to a doctor. In all of these circumstances you have to place trust and you have to make the time.

So what are you waiting for to start your journey with the help of one of RSVP’s expert Dating PAs? Remember that self-improvement gives us the best rewards. You can’t eat healthily for one day and expect instant results; you must eat well and visit the gym time and again. Next time you go on a date, remember you are one step closer to your goal. If you are guilty of procrastination, yet you want to be someone’s priority, pull up your big pants and call an expert.

Friday, 12 August 2016

First Impressions

We are constantly told that first impressions count. It could be a job interview, meeting the neighbours, first day at work/school, the first step, first date, or that first time meeting the parents. So many firsts to think of.

I was intrigued to read an article in the Mail Online that shared Kathryn Alice’s (author of “Love will find you”) five-step formula to make a good and lasting impression. She promises it will help you become an expert at connecting with those you believe to be a 10.
1 Build yourself up internally – there is no rejection; just the wrong fit

2 Connect Subtly – Eye Contact and Smile

3 Chat matter-of-factly – making comment on things around you

4 Once emotional safety has been established, you can build on it – asking questions

5 Bring it home by furthering contact – Connect on Facebook

The beauty of this day and age is that we no longer have to take these firsts alone. For instance, at RSVP dating agency and singles club, you’ll find a team of expert matchmakers with a positive and cheery disposition, ready to help you along on your ’firsts’ journey.

The list above is fairly straight forward and full of common sense, which we all display very little of when we are bowled over by someone. This is where using a professional matchmaking service can be the voice of reason. However, I must say that my top 5 wouldn’t involve social media so soon.

Dating is unique; there is no one size fits all; therefore, I am 100% behind step one – you must learn to love yourself from the inside out to enable someone else to love you.

You could also put these skills into practice at one of RSVP’s exclusive singles events, such as a grand ball, with the support of a seasoned host.

Tuesday, 2 August 2016

Friendship and dating

Can a close opposite gender friendship survive dating?

A question that I don’t think can be answered fully. As in life we are all unique and we all have a different view of what’s ‘normal’.

But, let’s think about this for a moment, shall we? What makes us choose a person and think to ourselves ‘I’ll keep this one as just a friend and share memories, maybe grab some food and have fun with’?

Is having an opposite gender best friend disrespectful to a potential romantic partner?

Here at dating agency and singles club RSVP, we know that people from all over our database have sought advice on this subject, more so in recent times, now that people are more accepting.

When you join a dating agency and singles club like RSVP, you are ultimately seeking a romance. But, hold on a minute. This guy is telling me he has made some male and female friends and actually his ‘best friend’ is also female – that green-eyed monster appears. 

Ladies, the beauty of a traditional matchmaking service, is that these men have invested not only their time and money, but have sought professional dating assistance. If there were any romantic connection with his ‘best-friend’, surely he wouldn’t have needed to take that step.

And, gents, the same goes for the opposite. If the lady whose attention you seek wanted to date her best friend, she certainly wouldn’t waste her money on dating; she would be buying handbags and shoes, spending all her time convincing her male friend to look no further.

The more friends you make in life, the more your circle widens, thus opportunities arise. At RSVP dating agency and singles club, we actively encourage you to come out and met new people at our events; think of the stories you are creating. How unique to say our romance blossomed after meeting a new friend on an RSVP F1 Racing Simulator and Rock Climbing singles event in Bedford, who just happened to have a friend who was perfect for me? That’s an opportunity that would have not arisen if it wasn’t for a little help from our friends.

Friday, 22 July 2016

Cherish Today


Rather than slam internet dating and harp on about the importance of keeping ourselves safe online, I would like to take a moment to send our thoughts and prayers to the family of the victim Usha Patel.


It is with great sadness that when women are faced with the harsh reality of single life with a young child in tow, our need for attention heightens, which can leave us wide open to many situations that would appear out of character.


After all, we all want to be liked and ultimately loved, so we will put in that extra effort and take the risk. Sometimes this pays off and we met that person who makes our eyes dance and heart sing. Not all stories end tragically; the blame here lies only with the individual who stole a mother from a young child.


Tomorrow isn’t promised; cherish today; we never expect to need an emergency plan. However, the route of using a traditional dating agency like RSVP, where every member has been met, will definitely deter those with criminal intent and will help set your mind at ease. Knowledge is power; I strongly urge all daters to research traditional offline agencies through the Association of British Introduction Agencies.


RSVP offer our deepest sympathies to friends and family of Usha.

Thursday, 14 July 2016

Modern Dating Etiquette

So is there such a thing as dating etiquette in the modern day?


Should some things remain private between a couple? Well, this choice is unique and personal to you, not only as an individual but as a couple.


However, surely anything that you do disclose should be discussed between you both. How does this work at the beginning of a relationship?


Most of us have that one friend that we see as our ‘human diary’; some may even be lucky enough to have a few; you know those friends that you ‘over share’ with and tell your deepest darkest secrets and desires to; things that you wouldn’t dream of relating on social media.


A normal day for an RSVP Dating PA (that’s the service that comes with RSVP’s Platinum Introduction Agency membership) means you hear many stories. I am the first to say that nothing shocks me anymore; you have the comfort of knowing that even if you do seek advice or over share with our team of matchmaking experts, it definitely won’t:

A-     Get plastered all over Facebook/Twitter etc  

B-      Be accidently leaked to the partner or other friends

C-      Result in you feeling judged on your actions.


After all, I – along with my fellow Dating PAs – am  here for that purpose; a wise but impartial and non-judgemental expert. I will tell you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear, to help you on your dating journey.


Now I was slightly surprised that there is a fairly new kid on the internet block, with a Dating app that girls can swipe left/right – fairly common these days; however, you can also join as ‘a ghost’ to help a member of your girl group search for her perfect guy; it doesn’t stop there, they can even be involved in the messages; yes, they can see the whole conversation as well as add to it!


Do you find this kind of dating enticing? How well do your friends know what you REALLY want in a partner? I wonder how the guys will react to dating a team!


I think I’d rather leave my dating in the hands of a professional team. My advice? Put your phone down and get yourself out to one of the superb singles events hosted by RSVP and meet some genuine singles face to face.