Thursday, 5 April 2018

More Online Dating Fraud


We have all heard the scare stories in the media of the perils of meeting people on line. With, seemingly every month, another new app or dating website popping up, there really is a lot of choice out there. But is one better than the other and do they all come with the same warnings? Here at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club we meet real people, in real time. We interview everyone and they often tell us of their online dating horror stories.

One lady we interviewed had met a guy on a popular, free website and spent months – yes, months – corresponding with him via email. We’ll call him Bernard. As the messages flew back and forth the emotional connection (and the time invested) grew. After Bernard sent some images of himself, a well-meaning friend of our prospective client used Google’s Reverse Image Search to discover that Bernard was, in real life, a dancer in New York and actually not residing locally as she first thought. When she asked him why, Bernard closed his email account and she never heard from him again. She was lucky. She only wasted months of her time.

Another gentleman we interviewed met a girl on line and spoke to her on the telephone. After no response to his texts for a couple of days, she eventually made contact asking for £2,000, stating that she was stranded abroad after having her bag supposedly stolen. Thankfully, he declined her kind offer .... but will the next chap she approaches be so savvy?

As an industry leader in dating for over 25 years, RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club is often asked to comment about national news stories. Michelle recently offered BBC Radio Leicester listeners advice on online dating fraud.

If you value your confidentiality, your time, your wealth and, ultimately, your safety, contact RSVP to arrange an interview with one of our dedicated Dating Consultants and let the professionals find you love.

Tuesday, 13 March 2018

Love will never go out of style - only the way we find it will change

If there is one thing we can guarantee at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, it is that love will never go out of style. The desire to couple-up is still at the forefront of people’s minds and will continue to magnify, bringing more relationship-orientated people to the dating pool.

Whether you love them or hate them, in recent years we have seen a surge in the number of online dating apps and while online dating will continue to make it easy for people to meet others, it seems that people we see every day are missing the authenticity of real-life encounters.

As the technology on our smartphones continues to develop, so will online dating apps. There are already apps on the market that have a video chat option and dating experts believe that this will only continue to expand throughout the market in 2018.

It's been said that online dating can be a full-time job, so, as people grow more and more fatigued by online encounters, the idea of face-to-face dating will expand past our smartphones and matchmaking will get trendy again, along with the idea of shared experiences for singles - events, tours, walks, dinners - all things that we specialise in at RSVP.

Being a traditional dating agency, we constantly hear from our members about how fed up they are with online dating and how impersonal and disconnected it feels. At RSVP, our experienced Dating Consultants take into account the things that are most important to you and open your eyes to the possibilities and potential matches that could be available to you. They are there to advise and support you every step of your dating journey and put the personal touch back into dating.

For those looking to meet someone in a more natural environment, our hosted singles events allow people to meet in a group setting, giving a more relaxed approach to dating. With activities, dinners, suppers, tours and our infamous singles balls, we consider a variety of different tastes, budgets, lifestyles and locations when creating our quarterly events calendar and host many superb events every week!

Over our 25 years of being established, RSVP’s expert matchmaking and events teams have worked with a huge variety of people and, whether they are male or female, young or old, they all have one thing in common: they are all actively looking to find someone to share their life with away from the games that blight modern dating.

If you want to find out more about our services and the memberships on offer, please contact RSVP here.

Thursday, 1 March 2018

Don't make the first date an interview.

I’ve been getting a lot of feedback from RSVP dating members lately, who decide not to go on a second date because they feel they are being interviewed when they first meet someone. I am sure that no-one sets out to interrogate their match on a first meeting and there can be many reasons why this happens. Often members want to appear confident and in control of the situation, which leads them to ask lots of questions. Another reason can be that you have spent a lot of time building up the person in your mind and you are genuinely interested in finding out more in the excitement of a first meeting.  Whatever the reason, if you are aware that this can be off-putting, you can take steps to avoid this. Here are few tips.
  1. Be realistic about how much information you can expect to find out about your date on a first meeting.  Don’t try and work out if this is “the one”.  You just need to know, 'would I enjoy meeting this person again?'. Take things one step at a time.
  2. It’s important to appear interested in your date, so you do want to ask some questions. Just make sure they are fairly light-hearted. Avoid questions that are too deep or personal; neither of you should be talking about ex-partners on a first meeting. Or whether you want children. Or whether you want to get married (again). Have a look at this article to give you some ideas. www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201305/21-first-date-questions.
  3. Once you have asked your questions, listen to what they are saying! There’s nothing worse than being asked to talk about yourself and then not listened to once you start answering the question.
  4. Try and be open-minded about what you are hearing. It’s very rare for any two partners to agree on everything or have identical hobbies and interests, plus sometimes opposites attract, so give the person a fair chance.
  5. Whilst you do want to hear about the other person, be prepared to talk a little about yourself. I often hear people say that you have two ears and one mouth, so you should think about a ratio of about 2:1 listening: talking.

Friday, 12 January 2018

Obama’s Talks about The Value of Meeting Face to Face

At RSVP Head Office, we have had a lot of discussion about Prince Harry's recent interview with President Obama for Radio 4’s Today program. It turns out we are not the only ones, this has become one of the most talked about interviews for months. Throughout the interview they talked about a variety of different current topics that resonate well with dating and our members at RSVP.

Image of Prince Harry by Suzanne Plunkett, CC BY 2.0
The first thing that struck a chord with us was when Obama discussed the positives and negatives of the internet and social media, he stated "One of the dangers of the internet is that people can have entirely different realities. They can be cocooned in information that reinforces their current biases”.

This is one of the reasons why RSVP Dating Agency and Singles club don't operate online like other agencies and dating websites; everything is done in house with a team of specifically trained people who learn and have a more sensitive understanding of our members than that of a computer operated database which churns out basic results.
Furthermore Obama elaborated "...it’s important for them to get offline, meet in a pub, meet in a place of worship, meet in a neighbourhood and get to know each other, because the truth is that on the internet everything is simplified". At RSVP we are huge believers in getting out there and taking chances with people; this could be a simple coffee with an introduction or attending one of our fabulous singles events. We often have members say things like 'I wish I joined years ago, I am so much happier now I am getting out and meeting new people’.
Returning back to the interview, another thing that is worth noting is when Obama said;  “When you meet people face-to-face, it turns out they’re complicated. There may be somebody who you think is diametrically opposed to you when it comes to their political views, but you root for the same sports team. Or you notice that they’re really good parents. You find areas of common ground because you see that things aren’t as simple as had been portrayed in whatever chatroom you’d been in".

There have been plenty of similar instances at RSVP when we send out a profile of one member to another. They are a good match, but then the member may phone up us up because they see something on the profile that they don’t like, fixating on one small point that they disagree with or don’t see a commonality. We always say that a profile is a tiny slice of the overall picture of who someone is. Having different hobbies to yourself or different religion or ethnicity doesn’t matter at all when you actually meet them face to face.

To open up new doors and to kick start your 2018 into a more socially-filled 'getting out there' year, get in touch with our team at RSVP and we'll organise a meeting with one of our friendly Dating Consultants.

Wednesday, 13 December 2017

A Modern Royal Love Story & Keeping an Open Mind whilst Dating

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, naturally we always like to hear a good love
story... And the recent Royal engagement with Prince Harry and Meghan Markle was no different. You may be wondering why we are choosing to comment on this, since that it has already been well covered in the news and media since the announcement. And what this Royal engagement has to do with RSVP? Funnily enough, from this we can draw many parallels to a number of RSVP success stories.

An engagement ring © Cytherium 
CC BY-SA 3.0
At RSVP, we interview every prospective member before joining, asking a range of different questions to get to know all about them and their expectations from a potential partner. Very often we hear similar comments; for example a gentlemen might say ‘I don’t want to date anyone older than me’. Another comment that we sometimes get from ladies might be ‘I don’t see the point in meeting someone who lives more than 50 miles away from me’. If both Harry and Meghan had this approach, they would never have started dating. Meghan is 3 years older than Harry and they previously lived across the Atlantic from each other.

Interestingly, Meghan is of mixed heritage; on occasions people say to us that they only want to date within their own religion and ethnicity, then they meet actually someone who has a different background to them and soon see that it really isn’t the obstacle they think it is. RSVP's team of expert matchmakers occasionally will encourage a member to take an introduction from someone who is a little outside their criteria. They are often pleasantly surprised that it has worked out well and are pleased that they kept an open mind. 

We also strongly recommend members go to our RSVP singles events, open to all members regardless of membership level, age or location. At an RSVP singles event, you will be meeting a larger section of members and, unsurprisingly, our singles events have a brought many couples together too, as you'll see from our success stories.

So, our recommendations from Harry and Meghan's success? Be open-minded to potential partners and don't put barriers up based on past experiences or old-fashioned notions that you may be unnecessarily holding on to. To start your own love story, book an appointment with one of our dating consultants.

Monday, 20 November 2017

Dating and Singles Events Nerves

One of the main things that often holds single people back from getting out there and dating is because they are nervous. If you focus in on this and come up with reasons why – it could be that they haven’t dated in while; or it could be because of low body confidence; but the most common reason is trust, particularly when it is a blind date and they don’t know very much about the person they are going on a date with.

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we are confident we can help you on all of the above; allow me to address each of the above: 

Trust. if you are meeting people online, your safety may be compromised because you’re meeting a complete stranger and there is a chance that they are not who they say they are. At RSVP, we meet every single one of our members, requesting proof of identity and proof of address, without exception. This gives our members the confidence and the security to meet someone new and not worry about this.
You haven’t dated in a while. Whether it is 2 years, 12 years or 25 years ago, you may find it difficult to jump back into the dating world. Dating has changed. Whilst some embrace this and enjoy the opportunity of meeting new people, others find it tricky. You may find online dating a bit of minefield and question how to write a good profile for yourself which captures your personality well but doesn’t sound too generic. Then there is actually selecting and talking to different people. At RSVP, we make dating so much easier, from writing your profile, to providing phone numbers in a secure and confidential way. Depending on your chosen level of membership at RSVP, you could have your very own Dating PA to guide and support you on your dating journey; this has undoubtedly been the key to building confidence for many of our members who appreciate this level of professional support.
Low confidence in self. We say you just have to bite the bullet and get back out there. We often have members who start by attending RSVP’s Singles Events, which is easier and than one to one dating. Doing an activity in a group of singles (this could be walking, a group meal or even a tour) will help you build up your confidence and enjoy getting back out there. As previously stated, depending on your RSVP membership level, we have Dating PAs who can talk dates through with you and provide insightful guidance to navigate your dating world; at Platinum level, you can also enjoy a free introductory session with our confidence coach.
All that said, we all have moments on dates when our nerves get the better of us. Here is my advice for dates and singles events:
1. Plan ahead. Select an outfit; make sure that is something you feel comfortable in, which makes you feel good. Do make an effort. Turning up in your gardening gear will not get you a second date. Make sure your outfit is clean, ironed and still in its first flush of youth.
2. Allow yourself plenty of time to get ready and plan your route to the venue ahead. Arriving late doesn’t give the best first impression and if you are rushing to get there it is only going to increase your stress level.

3. As tempting as it is, don’t have too much to drink. It isn’t likely to end well.
4. Try to remember that everyone has been in your shoes at some point, whether it is a first date or a first RSVP singles event, the first event/date after a long spell is always the hardest, but it gets easier after that.
5. Have a good time. This is the easiest thing to forget. Typically, people put so much onus on a date or a singles event, they don’t realise that it is simply a good opportunity to get to know others and have fun.

Tuesday, 7 November 2017

Breadcrumbs are only for ducks...not dating


Modern dating is hard; from being stood up to ghosting, there always seems to be a new dating trend that we should watch out for and they all seem to be worse than the one that came before it.
 
At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club we have seen and heard it all from new members looking for a way out from what can be the brutal reality that can come with dating.
 
Breadcrumbing is the fresh new way for daters to mess with the people who are expressing unrequited interest in them. Breadcrumbers will maintain an irregular pattern of non-committal communication in order to lure a partner without expending much effort. Whether it is a stream of sporadic messages or a like on social media, the contact is just enough so you don’t lose interest but not too much that the relationship moves forward.
 
Because of the influential role that technology plays in the modern dating scene, breadcrumbing can be particularly infuriating if you’re in search of a genuine connection and that’s where a Dating Agency like RSVP can help. Whilst we cannot guarantee that you are going to find Mr or Ms Right straight away, we can guarantee that you’ll be on the correct path.
 
Over our 25 years of being established, RSVP’s expert matchmaking team have worked with a huge variety of people and, whether they are male or female, young or old, they all have one thing in common: they are all actively looking to find someone to share their life with away from the games that entangle modern dating.
 
If you would like to know more about our services and how our expert dating consultants can get your dating journey on the right track, contact RSVP here.