Tuesday 13 March 2018

Love will never go out of style - only the way we find it will change

If there is one thing we can guarantee at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, it is that love will never go out of style. The desire to couple-up is still at the forefront of people’s minds and will continue to magnify, bringing more relationship-orientated people to the dating pool.

Whether you love them or hate them, in recent years we have seen a surge in the number of online dating apps and while online dating will continue to make it easy for people to meet others, it seems that people we see every day are missing the authenticity of real-life encounters.

As the technology on our smartphones continues to develop, so will online dating apps. There are already apps on the market that have a video chat option and dating experts believe that this will only continue to expand throughout the market in 2018.

It's been said that online dating can be a full-time job, so, as people grow more and more fatigued by online encounters, the idea of face-to-face dating will expand past our smartphones and matchmaking will get trendy again, along with the idea of shared experiences for singles - events, tours, walks, dinners - all things that we specialise in at RSVP.

Being a traditional dating agency, we constantly hear from our members about how fed up they are with online dating and how impersonal and disconnected it feels. At RSVP, our experienced Dating Consultants take into account the things that are most important to you and open your eyes to the possibilities and potential matches that could be available to you. They are there to advise and support you every step of your dating journey and put the personal touch back into dating.

For those looking to meet someone in a more natural environment, our hosted singles events allow people to meet in a group setting, giving a more relaxed approach to dating. With activities, dinners, suppers, tours and our infamous singles balls, we consider a variety of different tastes, budgets, lifestyles and locations when creating our quarterly events calendar and host many superb events every week!

Over our 25 years of being established, RSVP’s expert matchmaking and events teams have worked with a huge variety of people and, whether they are male or female, young or old, they all have one thing in common: they are all actively looking to find someone to share their life with away from the games that blight modern dating.

If you want to find out more about our services and the memberships on offer, please contact RSVP here.

Thursday 1 March 2018

Don't make the first date an interview.

I’ve been getting a lot of feedback from RSVP dating members lately, who decide not to go on a second date because they feel they are being interviewed when they first meet someone. I am sure that no-one sets out to interrogate their match on a first meeting and there can be many reasons why this happens. Often members want to appear confident and in control of the situation, which leads them to ask lots of questions. Another reason can be that you have spent a lot of time building up the person in your mind and you are genuinely interested in finding out more in the excitement of a first meeting.  Whatever the reason, if you are aware that this can be off-putting, you can take steps to avoid this. Here are few tips.
  1. Be realistic about how much information you can expect to find out about your date on a first meeting.  Don’t try and work out if this is “the one”.  You just need to know, 'would I enjoy meeting this person again?'. Take things one step at a time.
  2. It’s important to appear interested in your date, so you do want to ask some questions. Just make sure they are fairly light-hearted. Avoid questions that are too deep or personal; neither of you should be talking about ex-partners on a first meeting. Or whether you want children. Or whether you want to get married (again). Have a look at this article to give you some ideas. www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201305/21-first-date-questions.
  3. Once you have asked your questions, listen to what they are saying! There’s nothing worse than being asked to talk about yourself and then not listened to once you start answering the question.
  4. Try and be open-minded about what you are hearing. It’s very rare for any two partners to agree on everything or have identical hobbies and interests, plus sometimes opposites attract, so give the person a fair chance.
  5. Whilst you do want to hear about the other person, be prepared to talk a little about yourself. I often hear people say that you have two ears and one mouth, so you should think about a ratio of about 2:1 listening: talking.